He told us someone at school says that. We always say, "Aww, man."
In other weekly news, in case you haven't seen my FB posts, Brixton is freaking out when I leave him now.
At daycare for the past two days he has a screaming, crying, clinging fit when I leave. It's heartbreaking! And unbearable! I have left daycare in tears for two days now. His teacher says he seems to be getting along with everyone.
Here's what's happened this week.
Monday - I was off, but took him for a couple of hours so I could finish some work on our vegetable garden. When I went to get him at the end of nap time he saw me and burst into tears. His teacher said he had an accident during naptime. Well, he doesn't have spare clothes at daycare because he brings them home. So, he had no underwear on and was wearing a pair of little girl shorts. I did my best to make sure he knew that it was OK that he had an accident but he was still sad about it.
Tuesday - I took him to daycare. Typically I hug and kiss him by the sign in table and then take him down the hall where he walks right into his class. No way. He froze in the hall. So I tried to carry him in and then he was attached, not letting go, screaming, "Momma, don't leave me!" After about 10 minutes his teacher and I were able to pry him off of me. He kept screaming and I could hear him all the way down the hall until I walked out the door. His teacher called me an hour later to say he was OK and was playing with his friends.
Then today, Wednesday - I took him and we got inside and he said, "Momma, I don't want to go to school. I want you to stay home with me." Well, I signed him in kissed him and reassured him I would be back. He started to walk into the class and his teacher said something to me. As I responded he managed to grab my legs and the screaming started. Another teacher was right there too and tried to help. She took him and I walked away (which by the way is the most awful feeling). The daycare director came out of her office to see what was going on and said, "Is that Brixton?" She was shocked... because he's never done this! I started crying and left. I called a couple hours later and she told me that she took him for about 5 or 10 minutes and he calmed down. The director, Ms. Marion, is the lady Nate used to leave him with every morning when he was the first kid at daycare each day. We adore her. I'm glad he calmed down, but I have no idea what to do about all of this.
Fortunately, I only have one work day left this week. I'm keeping him home from church tonight too just so I don't have to leave him in Bible class and risk another nightmare drop off.
I'm hoping it's just a phase, but if you have any good advice I'm open.
3 comments:
I hear it's not good to bribe kids with candy, BUT Olivia went through a stage like this when I took her to Mother's Day Out (and somedays still acts like that) but the church secretary has a bowl of M&M's on her desk so I started letting her pick out 3 to hold in her hand as we walk down the hall and then when we hug and kiss and say bye bye with no tears she gets to eat them. We've had no problem since then...the car ride there is sometimes whiny but as soon as we get out in the parking lot, she is running to Pam's desk for those m&m's. And she always says she has fun when I pick her up so I'm not too worried. It is sooo hard to leave them crying though!!
Yes, you are doing the right thing! I totally get the Wed. night skip :) but just keep on doing the quick drop off - no lingering. Lots of parents cave in and honestly I think it's a battle of wills here. You are the parent. You know he'll be safe and have a good time. As long as he's not sick or coming down with something, just hang in there! Go with Katie's idea if he keeps it up for too long. Or have a reward system at home where he gets to exchange good drop off behavior for something-but of course this draws more attention to it.
I wonder if he is just reacting to the accident he had on Monday and he is embarrassed by it? Just a thought I had. I'm with Kate - candy is always a good motivator for kids and a few pieces won't hurt. Jace is much younger but he has started screaming when I leave him at SSS. It breaks my heart, but I know he will be okay!! You are a great mom and Brixton won't be scarred!
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